Father's Day 08

It's never really a tradition for us to celebrate Father's Day in my family. Instead, birthdays were more important to us. Mom and Dad's days were just another celebration in church. No exception this year.

My pastor loves to create interaction within the congregation. This time, he opened the floor to anyone who'd like to share a little something on the occasion. Lots of emo stuff that went on that day esp when some shared about the love of their dads and all. My thinking is that we don't normally express our feelings through words. Actions? Gooottt...all of us got whacked before, haven't we? XD Anyway, I was just thinking everyone started choking on their words when they talk about their dads was perhaps because the emotions were not let out any earlier. Perhaps they never said those words out before. And when they do, it's to a big group of people. On a stage. Standing tall behind the pulpit. With all the attention to you. And with the person you are talking about actually being one of the audience. Get what I mean? *shrug* Just pondering.

Anyway, Valerie was one of them who shared. She talked about how her parents were from different backgrounds with different beliefs and all. How she and her siblings were brought up with values different from her father, and how all these led to different perspectives and what not. Not forgetting the numerous arguments and frustrations she went through with her dad just because they view things differently. I truly understood and felt connected to what she said.

It is one of my biggest fear.

When I was growing up, I set my own 'boyfriend requirements'. Of course, who would not. Everyone has a certain goal. On the top of my list, is 'a Christian'. No elaboration was made to that No. 1 statement cos then, I hadn't know about the different levels of spirituality in every Christian. Man, spirituality was a big word to me then. My main concern was just to find someone who has the same beliefs; to avoid clashes and arguments and to raise our children in common beliefs and values, besides being a loving couple.

Just the other day, I had the opportunity to have a little chat with a fellow colleague. Her name's Ice [Nevermind the name :P She's actually a very sweet girl]. At one point, she asked me what I look for in a guy which led to us exchanging what our 'bf requirements' were when we were younger. One thing in common we had: He MUST be tall. Must be taller than us. HAHAHAHAHAHA yea, and then we laughed :P like little girls. She's another thin and tall friend of mine and have an ex who's shorter and couldn't wear heels when going out with him.

But then in the end, we concluded that everything that really mattered was not how the person is on the outside, but it's about the feelings we have for each other.

What's my point? Really, I dunno. The point of this post was only supposed to be about what Valerie said.